There are lots of lines in this world. Most of which, we luckily did learn to draw.
Straight ones, narrow ones, wide ones, vertical ones, horizontal ones, curly ones, dotted ones, and more.
Most of us learned to draw them naturally when we held a pencil for the first time.
It was barely any effort except when we had to draw straight ones. In some instances, not-so-straight ones were acceptable too. Remember stick figures?
This particular line starts with a B and ends with an S. Can you guess which one it is?
It’s the hardest line to draw. Most of us never actually learned how to draw it.
It’s not our fault. We were never taught and it’s not an easy one to learn.
In fact, it is so hard, that when we see someone else draw it, it’s hard for us to accept that they can draw it!
Sometimes we are offended. Even embarrassed. Go figure.
I mean, it’s just a line, right?
Except it’s not.
This line is so remarkable and so powerful that it tells people how we wish to be treated.
It also tells us how others wish to be treated.
But when done poorly, this line can be blurry and cause even more confusion.
Luckily, there are a few tricks that you can implement right now to draw this line perfectly.
1. Ask yourself, how do I wish to be treated?
If I could tell people right now, how I wish to be treated, what would I say to them?
For some people, the response sounds like, “I will tell them I want to..”, “I will tell them I don’t want to…” and for other people, it sounds like, “I just want to be heard”.
So how do you wish to be treated? It might not seem reachable right now and that’s okay. I get it. It’s hard to describe how we want others to treat us if we have never drawn this line.
Take your time before you move to the next step.
2. When was the last time I witnessed someone else draw this line? How did it feel for me?
This question can unlock why you find it difficult to draw this line. What we perceive in others is what we often believe of ourselves.
For example, if you feel offended when other’s draw the line, perhaps you’re afraid you will offend people if you drew the line too. What’s stopping you from drawing the line?
3. Last question. If you could draw this line, who would you draw it for? Who will appreciate it and who won’t appreciate it?
This question will help you discover the people in your life with whom you already have this line and those with whom you need to introduce it.
Remember, those who respect you, also respect you for this line (no matter how blurry it might be).
If you have read this far, you have surely guessed this line.
It’s called Boundaries.
And if you could use a little help, book now and get started on learning to draw better boundaries.